Wash and pat dry the okras.
Chop off the head and tail. Slice into rounds.
Heat a pan with 3 teaspoons oil.
Temper with mustard seeds, urad dal, dried red chilies. Add chopped onions and saute till they turn soft.
Add chopped vendakkai and mix well. Add salt, turmeric powder, chili powder and mix well.
Cook in medium flame for 8-9 minutes.
Add gram flour or besan and cook for 3-4 minutes.
Add roasted crushed peanuts. Mix and cook for 2 minutes. Remove from flame and serve okra fry hot.